| Sometimes couples have legitimate reasons why they can't get away even for an overnight, but Michael Smith, assistant professor of psychology at Susquehanna University, has some suggestions on how to get the benefits of a couples-only vacation without ever leaving town: 1. Couples can have romantic time after the kids are asleep. Build in special "date" activities like a romantic movie, some wine and candles, a relaxing bath or shower, etc. Make this time one where no problems are discussed, where no schedules are set, no housework is done, where no "business" type of things happen. It should be couple time. 2. Get a babysitter once every two to four weeks and have a date night. Again, on date night, there is to be no discussion of family business. It is time for the couple alone. 3. Find ways to have special time during the day. Hug, hold hands, kiss – these are all good ways to keep romance alive during a normal day. Have candles at the dinner table. Sit down as a family together. Pull out the chair for your partner or try other small courtesies. These daily reminders and signs of affection can go a long way in keeping romance alive. |